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There are other herpes pages of course, but here you will find herpes lynx for really PRACTICAL herpes help. No medical tech-talk, just proven, practical methods of helping yourself with herpes. Having genital herpes is not that bad with the herpes help you'll find here.

There's a herpes homepage that offers some special "Herpes Herbs" which strengthen your immune system so that your herpes virus stays in remission so you don't have herpes sores anymore.

There's another herpes link which tells about THE COMPLETE, NO DRUG HERPES RELIEF PROGRAM. This program has helped thousands of people prevent herpes outbreaks by using Psycho-Neuro-Immunology. (The mind/body connection.) It also tells about herpes blindness (ocular herpes), and how to prevent this from happening to you. It tells you which foods CAUSE herpes outbreaks, and which foods help PREVENT herpes outbreaks. Hundreds of sources of herpes help are included, such as herpes support groups, and sources for special herpes herbs which you can order (without embarassment) by mail. This is a well researched and proven herpes program which will really help you. NOW YOU CAN GET THIS FAMOUS PROGRAM ONLINE! See link below.

If you are wondering about herpes dating, herpes relationships, and having sex with herpes, you'll want to check out the herpes link for a special herpes tape. This is a herpes conversational tape about HOW TO TELL SOMEONE YOU HAVE HERPES. (It is important to tell someone you have herpes before you have sex with them, to avoid possible legal action against you). Childbirth and herpes are also discussed, along with how to overcome anger, guilt, and remorse.

Here are your herpes links.

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2To link to HOW TO STOP HERPES OUTBREAKS click here. (Lots of FREE reading) Invaluable help for sex and herpes, herpes relationships, preventing herpes. Covers the emotional and spiritual aspects of herpes too. Very informative, and easy to understand. Find out about the truth about herpes cures.

3To find out HOW TO TELL SOMEONE YOU HAVE HERPES, (The tape is called "There's Something I Should Tell You") click here. Herpes and childbirth too.

4For the ONLINE RELIEF PROGRAM click here. (Lower cost, and download instantly)

5And here's a link about relationships. It is not about herpes relationships specifically, but it does include insight as to why relationships fail, and what to do to have a successful relationship. To find out about it, Click here. Read all about relationships for FREE!

6And here's a link that will give you hope and encouragement. Click here. Free, informative and supportive. Click here. You will feel better after reading this article.

I hope these herpes links are useful to you.

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Dear Aunt Martha,

Can 2 people who are both infected with HSV-2 enjoy a normal sexual relationship? We have just been diagnosed and he is concerned about having to live a sexless life because we will always have to be wondering who is shedding the virus and will we transmit sores to other places on the body and all that good stuff. I'm not as concerned with having the virus as I am with keeping this relationship together. Lastly, is there a cure for herpes?

Zena

Dear Zena,

First, unfortunately there is no cure for herpes, so don't believe anyone who trys to sell you a herpes cure.

It is possible for you and your partner to enjoy a good sexual relationship. Notice I used the word "good", instead of "normal". You are past being able to have a "normal" sex life. (What's "normal" anyway?)

With precautions, you can certainly have an active sex life, and not worry about transmitting sores to other places. I suggest you read "The Complete, No Drug, Herpes Relief Program", mentioned in a link on this website. It has a great deal of information regarding this.

My intuition is telling me that your partner may actually have other concerns about your relationship, which do not relate to herpes. It may be a good time for both of you to look inward, and do some serious relationship work. You can start with books on this topic, and then seek out relationships workshops and possibly some couples counselling. Reassure your partner that you will not have to live sexless lives.

I hope this is helpful to you.

Aunt Martha

Dear Aunt Martha

I've had HSVII for 10 years, and two days ago, I found out it's now in my eye. My alternatives are small. My doctor suggested I start taking steroid eye drops, but the down side is: a) for at "least" 2 years, and b) it changed my natural immune system so I can not fight it on my own. I haven't been able to find ANY information with regard to this. Only thing I've seen is Chickenpox in the eye, but not HSVII. If you have any information, suggestions, know anything, I would really appreciate help. I do not want to go blind, literally, and figuratively.

Kate

Dear Kate,

I can relate to your fears. A few years ago, I had unexplained sore eyes, and my vision became slightly blurred. I felt panicky and afraid, and feared I had somehow infected my eyes. It turned out to be OK, but I know what it feels like. This was before I knew of any herbs etc. to strengthen the immune system, and fight infection.

Now, SPEAKING FOR MYSELF, I would be willing to do almost ANYTHING, if I were in your position. Taking the following action can't hurt, and it just MAY make a difference:

Immedietly stop using caffeing, tobacco, food additives (read ALL labels!) junk food. Avoid sunlight, including tanning beds, fatigue, stress, overwork. Get lots of sleep. Take garlic capsules, and the herbs offered under link 1, above. I can't guarantee this will work. I don't know. But I know that I'd sure do it.

Love, Aunt Martha

Dear Aunt Martha,

Help! I cannot find any consistent information on whether genital herpes can cause miscarriage. I had an outbreak at about 9 weeks and miscarried at 12 weeks. I know I'll never know definitively why I miscarried, but I've heard enough conflicting information about herpes & miscarriage that I'm very confused and concerned about what I should/should not do in the future once pregnant again. Can you advise or refer me to any sound reference material? I've already talked to 3 MD's and heard 3 different stories.

Beth

Dear Beth,

I don't think herpes in itself can cause a miscarriage. But I do know that stress, and negative thoughts and emotions can cause physiological reactions. You would certainly be experiencing stress, being pregnant, and worrying about giving birth with herpes. This is very understandable.

I suggest the following: Continue to educate yourself as much as you can, regarding childbirth and herpes. (search the net...there's lots out there) Also, learn some meditation techniques, and practice meditation at least twice a day. There are "stress buster" tapes that you can buy to help in this regard. Perhaps get help from a hypnotherapist, relating to any possible negative thoughts you may have about giving birth under these circumstances. (These thoughts may be subconscious.....and you may not be aware of them at a conscious level.) And lastly, practice good health, especially as it relates to herpes. No alcohol, tobacco, junk food, caffeine, etc. Use herbs to keep your immune system strong, so you are not likely to have an outbreak at the time of birth. I know you are going through a lot, and it's not easy. I will say a little prayer for you.

Love, Aunt Martha

Dear Aunt Martha,

I've had herpes for just over a year. A few months ago I started using some herbs I saw advertised on the net, and have experienced a lot of relief. I now feel ready to start looking for a relationship again, but am worried about rejection when I tell a potential partner. I've been thinking about buying the tape mentioned in the Herpes Mall, but I'm not sure. Basically, I am lonely, confused, worried, and scared about telling someone else, and don't know what to do. What should I do?

Sue J., Ft. Lauderdale FL

Dear Sue,

Well, I certainly know how you feel! I've been there and know the feeling well. About the tape, I've had people tell me they liked it and found it helpful. You should also have some informative literature for your new potential partner to read when the time is right. Such literature can probably explain things better than you can, especially when you are in a worried frame of mind. Let me tell you about how I handled it one time.

I had dated this guy for a while, and was wanting to get intimate, (and knew that he was too) but I was also fearing rejection when I told him. On a romantic night when it was starting to happen, I blurted out that I had herpes, but it wasn't that bad, and I had something he could read that would explain it all. I handed him the manual described in link 2 of the Herpes Mall. He read it, (actually he read only certain parts of it) and then put it down and smiled. He then held me close, and kissed me. We were in bed a few minutes later. I can't speak for anyone else, and I don't pretend that it is always that easy. But the point is: Educate yourself, and have some educational material on hand to bring out at the right time. Good luck!

Aunt Martha

And please note: I am not a doctor. Anything you read here should not be considered medical advice. Consult with your doctor for medical advice.

Not Just Questions! Comments, Jokes too!!

THIS COLUMN IS NOT JUST FOR QUESTIONS! You are also welcome to air your comments, vent your frustration or share anything else about herpes. Also, it's a good idea to lighten up regarding herpes. Once you've learned how to stop or control your outbreaks it's not that bad. You WILL feel happier after a while. So if you have any herpes jokes or annecdotes you would like to share or know of any web sites with herpes humour, please let me know. Some of the more humorous and positive jokes will be posted here.

Joke Department.

Question: How many people with herpes does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

Answer: It takes five. One to screw it in, and 4 to say, "You know, you really should be using a condom."

Have you got a herpes joke? Please email it in now!!

I don't know everything about life, or everything about herpes, but I know this: We are not just physical beings. There is a part of us which is spiritual, and a part of us which is emotional too. And all three parts are connected. The main thing most people are concerned with when they first get herpes, is healing physicaly. They want the outbreaks to stop.

They usually don't want to hear about anything emotional or spiritual. But I have found that for us to heal physicaly, we have to do some emotional and spiritual healing too. This involves releasing the stored up anger we usually have about getting herpes. This can involve anger towards the person who gave us herpes, anger towards God, or the world or anything else. There is almost surely anger of some kind involved. Releasing this anger is necessary for our emotional well being. Ways of dealing with this anger are available through various therapy methods or support groups which deal with herpes. You will also find much help through link 2 above.

Spiritual healing involves forgiveness. Eventually, you will come to a place where you will feel OK about forgiving the one who gave you herpes. This does not mean you have to like them, or want to be with them anymore. It just means that you understand they too are human, and imperfect like you and me. And they make mistakes, and sometimes they let their passions rule them, just like we all do. You may want to do some work on forgiving yourself too. Perhaps you feel guilt or shame about getting herpes. Perhaps you think it was something you deserved, or that it is punishment for something you have done. When you get over this, and forgive the other person, and yourself, you will feel much better physicaly as well as emotionally. Finding a herpes support group (or starting one yourself) will be of great help here. Physical healing then follows a lot easier.

Herpes and the Moon

I have heard that link # 1 above, gets a lot more hits and requests starting THE FIRST DAY AFTER THE NEW MOON, and that the hits and requests DROP OFF DRAMATICALLY on the 10th and 11th day after the start of the NEW MOON. What do you think about this? I wonder if it is because there are more outbreaks during this time, or if people just decide to "take charge" during this time, and search the net more for answers and help. If you have some comments to share regarding this, please email me. Thank you!

Aunt Martha

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